If you’re curious about his preference, tell him yours too.

Maybe you prefer something different.

Maybe you want more eye contact.

Maybe you want more variety.

Maybe you enjoy slowing down.

Maybe you prefer certain forms of affection before and after sex.

Sexual compatibility isn’t about having identical preferences.

It’s about being able to talk about differences without fear.

29. Intimacy Is Bigger Than Sexual Position

A sexual position is one moment inside a much larger relationship.

Intimacy also includes:

Holding hands.

Hugging.

Kissing.

Talking late at night.

Laughing together.

Comforting each other.

Sharing fears.

Celebrating achievements.

Being affectionate for no reason.

Feeling safe.

Feeling desired.

Feeling respected.

If those things exist, it becomes much harder to justify a conclusion that one sexual position represents emotional distance.

The entire relationship matters more.

30. What If You Want More Variety?

Wanting variety is perfectly reasonable.

Some couples enjoy experimenting.

Others prefer a few familiar patterns.