What makes you comfortable?

Is there anything you’d like to change?

Is there anything you’d like to try?

These conversations are not signs that your sex life is failing.

They are signs that both people care about making it better.

18. Don’t Read Too Much Into One Position

There are endless online articles claiming that a person’s sexual preference “reveals” their personality.

Some say certain positions mean dominance.

Others say they indicate insecurity.

Others claim they reveal whether someone is emotionally attached.

Most of these interpretations are far too confident.

Human behavior is complicated.

A sexual position is a very small piece of information.

Two people can choose the exact same position for completely different reasons.

One because of comfort.

Another because of visual preference.

Another because it is easier physically.

Another because their partner enjoys it.

Another because it is simply familiar.

So be careful with articles that claim:

“If he does this, it definitely means…”